One of many typical mistakes I’ve seen fat dudes make will be either make excuses due to their size or make an effort to laugh it well by simply making jokes about padding or simply how much more there was for folks to love.
Both these approaches are errors; they betray a feeling of insecurity. Making jokes regarding the dimensions are more often than not a protection system, looking to get the insult in before anyone else does to use the sting from it… plus it simply calls focus on the known undeniable fact that you’re big and also you feel embarrassing about any of it.
The main element is definitely never to take it up at all. You’re big, it is known by you, she understands it. Presenting yourself as though you’re not really ashamed of your self is much more attractive than attempting to armor your self up with jokes.
Don’t misunderstand me: humor is attractive… but protective or humor that is self-deprecating from “funny” to “really sort of pitiful” really quickly.